Forgiveness

By Ross Bishop

I am sure we were all moved by the expressions of compassion and forgiveness by the Amish toward the man who cruelly murdered five innocent Amish girls and seriously wounded five others. I could not help but contrast the reaction of the Amish Christians with the reaction of the Conservative Christians in Washington after the attacks of September 11, 2001.

After the World Trade Center attacks there were no expressions of compassion, there was no desire to reach out to the terrorists or their families and understand what had driven them to do such terrible acts. There were no thoughts of compassion. The Western way of life had been challenged, and our leaders wanted to hear none of it. There was only the desire for punishment and retribution. Their God it seems, is an angry and vengeful God.

By contrast, many of the Amish in Pennsylvania spoke of the need to forgive the killer of their children. The family of one of the dead children visited the killer’s family just hours after the incident. They came to the door and said, “We forgive you.” I found myself wondering, “How many of us could do that if someone had cruelly murdered one of our children?” The Amish elders formed a charity fund not only to help the victims’ families but to also help the gunman’s widow and her three children (to contribute go to mds.mennonite.net or mcc.org).

One Amish man said, “I don’t think there’s anybody here that wants to do anything but forgive and not only reach out to those who have suffered a loss in that way but to reach out to the family of the man who committed these acts also.”

One area resident (who is not Amish) said, “This is imitation of Christ at its most naked. If anybody is going to turn the other cheek in our society, it’s going to be the Amish.” He continued, “I don’t want to denigrate anybody else who says they’re imitating Christ, but the Amish walk the walk as much as they talk the talk.”

Dwight Lefever, a Roberts (the killer’s) family spokesman talked at a community prayer service a few days after the murders. He said he was at the home of Roberts’ father when an Amish neighbor came to comfort the family. “He stood there for an hour, and he held that man in his arms, and he said, ‘We will forgive you,’” Lefever said. “He extended the hope of forgiveness that we all need these days.”

I cannot help but wonder what our world would be like today if we had an Amish Christian as President when 9/11 happened. Maybe 9/11 would never have happened at all.

Copyright©2007 Blue Lotus Press

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Karma

by Ross Bishop

As a child you may have been told about God or St. Peter keeping a big book in which sins and good deeds were recorded. That’s how many people view karma, as a consequence for bad decisions. Sometimes too, people are taught that karma is like a cosmic boomerang that punishes people for bad behavior – from this life or a previous one. Although these are quaint explanations, neither explanation is true. This is not how The Creator operates.

There is also confusion in the Judeo-Christian-Muslim world because the Old and New Testament Gods are so different. One punishes, the other forgives. Jews, Muslims and some Christian faiths hold to the Old Testament view of God or Allah sitting in judgment over mankind, meting out punishment as appropriate. Muslims take the concept even further, viewing life as a process through which God tests us. How can these conflicting views be explained? And, what is the truth?

Let’s look first at the world of the Old Testament. Life in those days was run by superstition. It was a world of demons and gods. Everything in nature, especially life, was a great mystery. It is easy, under those conditions, to ascribe an angry God to a storm or an earthquake. It is easy to see a difficult life or disease as a curse from the gods.

There is also a tricky piece of logic here. Everything is under the rubric of God’s control – otherwise, He’s not God! If you hold the human perspective, life can seem terribly cruel, with devastation, famine, disease, etc. Leading to an attribution of anger or displeasure from God. Science can describe life or an earthquake in great detail, but it does not even attempt essential questions such as why we live or why we love. When however, you shift your perspective away form the strictly human point of view and begin to look at the world from God’s viewpoint, things on earth start to make a great deal more sense. I do not think that pre-Christian writers had the freedom to take that perspective. And, as I said, when all you can hold is the human point of view, it’s fairly easy to perceive difficult events as God’s punishment. I suspect that there is a great deal in the Old Testament that falls into the category of misinterpretation and misunderstanding.

It is not my place to say whether God visited Abraham or Moses, but even in the best of conditions, it is frightfully easy to misinterpret channeled information, especially in the context of a culture heaped in superstition. We also know that people in positions of unquestionable power (and the Middle East was full of kings), are easily corrupted by that power. Their discernment becomes seriously distorted. Even the Great kings David and Solomon were not free from these influences. I look at Moses’ forty years of wandering, and have to wonder if he really was being led by God, as Golda Meir said, “To the only land in the Middle East without any oil.”

Christ brought a significantly different perspective of the Creator. In fact, He said that one of the reasons He had come was to clear up our misunderstandings about who God was. Christ did not seek to criticize the Old Testament stories; instead, he gave us a new way to view life. He told us of a loving and compassionate father who had infinite love for his children and did not judge or punish them.

This more enlightened view of the Creator sheds a very different light on karma. If the Creator is not an “eye for an eye” kind of guy, then the idea of karma as punishment or retribution is no longer appropriate. If however, we accept Christ’s teaching that God is a loving and compassionate teacher we can look at karma differently, and when we do, the pieces start to fall into place.

Let us begin with the premise that The Universe’s sole purpose is to encourage you to learn to love yourself. Everything you experience will be based on that premise. If you love yourself you will experience inner peace. But if you do not, you will face inner turmoil. When it manifests outward, your inner turmoil will create conflict with others. The pain from both the inner and outer conflicts is the energy of karma.

The intensity of an experience is determined by the degree to which you separate from the state of compassion. The farther “out” you are, the more intense and challenging your experience will be – not as punishment mind you, but as a wake-up call, asking you to look at the beliefs that are driving your behavior. In that sense, karma is more like a force of nature – say, gravity – than punishment or retribution.

If you hold a lifetime of rage for example, you will likely act with dysfunctional aggression toward the world. And as a result, you are going to be met with a host of resistance – from lovers, friends, maybe even the police. Your life (internal and external) will be hell. This is karma – the dissonance you create asking you to look at the beliefs that drive it.

It is easy to get caught up in the drama, to be angry at life for being difficult or unfair, and get lost in self-pity and shame. Most people do. These are just some of the things we do to avoid looking at what we have created. The Universe, operating like a great balancing wheel, is obliged to call your beliefs to your attention. This is the Law of Karma in operation. It is not punishment or payback, it is “encouragement” for you to look at your beliefs and bring them into harmony. Refuse this request and the process becomes a cattle prod. This is not done out of cruelty or unkindness, but in measured response to the resistance you present. Resist further and you will be brought to your knees. We call it a crisis – a healing crisis. Perhaps it will be a disease or personal turmoil, but something will present you with the challenge to, “Change or die.”

“But what of the innocents?” you might ask. “How do you explain children being harmed or getting diseases?” The principles are the same; it is an issue once again, of perspective. You need to remember that we carry the unresolved energies of each lifetime into the future. That endangered child, just like you, is engaged in a process to complete what was not finished in their previous lives. What is happening is not punishment, but rather a continuation of a vital learning process. If you were to look back at the unresolved issues of your past, you would find that they have been perfectly crafted to create your present life experience. That seeming innocent, and children have souls too, is completing a powerful process that needs resolution. After all, painful though they are, disease and affliction are some of our most powerful teachers.

“Should I intervene then?” The answer is a profound, “Yes, (unless the other is not open to your efforts).” Your intervention is also a part of the Creator’s plan for both of you. It is an expression of your natural compassion. You may not be able to effect much change, but making the effort is important.

Copyright©2008 Blue Lotus Press

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Making Mistakes

by Ross Bishop
How concerned are you about what other people think? Some people worry about that a great deal. They are very concerned about things like social acceptance, whether others will like them, whether they are good enough – that sort of thing. Of course, we all want to be liked, and certainly you don’t want to cause harm intentionally or to be blind to the consequences of your actions, but some people tiptoe through life ever fearful that they are going to “do it wrong” and get someone else upset. But as long as you are not being negligent, why can’t you give yourself some slack for your mistakes without feeling irresponsible or defective?
We’ve all done dumb things, and I’ll bet that if I told you about my mistakes, you’d be understanding and forgiving. But then, why can’t you forgive yourself? OK, you hurt someone’s feelings. No one likes to do that, but if it was unintentional or even perhaps insensitive, should that cast you out from human society into eternal damnation? If you have done something wrong, own what you did, apologize, make amends and then move on! But we don’t do that do we? I have had clients who were still beating themselves up for things they had done in high school! What’s the big charge on our behavior? What makes our screw-ups cling to us like Super Glue?
Part of the phenomenon is cultural. Our conservative Puritan ancestors, like most fundamentalist religious groups, kept a very tight leash on the flock. All behavior was subject to criticism and condemnation. That was pretty much the Anglo-Protestant (the dominant culture’s) social norm until after the Fist World War. Although a lot has changed since then, some of that old judgmental influence still hangs around. But there is more going on than just social values.
Everyone has a dark aspect that lurks in their shadow. This part fears exposure because it has been hurt and it has a low sense of self-esteem. It seeks to protect you by encouraging you to avoid potentially risky situations. And for some people, that includes avoiding just about everyone else! This dark aspect jumps at the opportunity to expose flaws in your behavior so it can blow them out of proportion and hook you in your shame. It hopes the shame will make you to withdraw and avoid exposing yourself to further condemnation and criticism. This is not done from malice or cruelty. This aspect sincerely believes you are unworthy – after all, that’s what you have been taught! And it is trying to help you the only way it can to avoid further difficulty.
The conflict between you and your shadow tells us that you do not have a good internal compass. You have not been encouraged to find and live your own values, but rather have been obliged to navigate life through the reactions and approval of other people – a very risky and unreliable process! Thus your worthiness is defined by your behavior, not by who you are.
Humans are imperfect beings. We learn through our mistakes. Even the best people screw up! If all we see are our flubs, then we measure our lives by our learning difficulties rather than our accomplishments! Every flaw, every misstep becomes a black mark.
We must not let our problems determine our worthiness. Trust me, God does not care about the disruptions in your life (so long as we’re not intentionally hurting anyone). The only thing God really cares about is what you do with the issues He sends your way. And He will keep sending them until you get it.
The conflicts in your life are here to teach you. If you are having difficulties, you are being unloving either to yourself or towards another. Otherwise you would only be having a problem, not a conflict! This issue has been created to bring your beliefs to your attention so that you can make changes. Ducking the issue only means that it will be brought up again, but with greater intensity in order to break through your resistance.
As painful as they may be, YOU NEED YOUR LESSONS! The trick, the key, is to learn from each situation, make changes AND THEN LET THEM GO! You see, it isn’t the events, but rather the beliefs you carry from them that matters.
Think about a recent difficult encounter you have had. Where did you shut down your love? If your heart had been open, there would have been no strife, just a problem to resolve. So yes, there was something for you to learn there. And if you went into the situation already feeling inept or unworthy, you could have had a grand time crucifying yourself afterwards for being stupid or inept. So maybe you did screw up, but you aren’t a screw-up. I want to be clear, I am not trying to excuse thoughtless behavior, but I learned long ago that in life there is only love or the longing for it. There is nothing else. Life is just helping you work through your issues.
Copyright 2012 Blue Lotus Press

 

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