When you connect with the wounded one inside, she will speak of feeling a lack of love, feeling inadequate, not accepted - that sort of thing. Her early experiences poisoned the waters in which a healthy self-image could have been created. She's inside saying, "What about me?" "What about my needs?" "I'm hurting in here!" This is the source of your dissatisfaction with life that, when unfulfilled, gets expressed as a desire for stuff to hide your feelings of inadequacy.
And you don't want to hear it. You don't want to deal with what she is feeling and the implications behind it. Your focus on external things - clothes, friends, furnishings, your career, money - as ways to cover over her feelings of lack, of emptiness. After all, she feels as though she doesn't "deserve" to be loved.
POSTED ON: February 2, 2017, 6:40 am BY Ross Bishop