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Sexual Abuse

With exceptions, although he probably knew his victim, the abuser doesn’t really care about who she is. He is so filled with rage and frustration that the things that normally regulate human behavior - like empathy, morals and self control - simply cannot withstand the onslaught of his pain.
POSTED ON: November 30, 2017, 7:05 am BY Ross Bishop

Making compromises

It seems difficult to be in a relationship or in society without making compromises. Our differing beliefs, needs and values have to be sorted out if we are to exist together. You’ve built a life that “accommodates” your needs and doesn't push you where you don't want to go.
POSTED ON: October 24, 2017, 2:45 pm BY Ross Bishop


A real relationship would ask you to take emotional risks that you aren’t prepared for . . .
POSTED ON: August 25, 2017, 7:05 pm BY Ross Bishop


When you connect with the wounded one inside, she will speak of feeling a lack of love, feeling inadequate, not accepted - that sort of thing. Her early experiences poisoned the waters in which a healthy self-image could have been created. She's inside saying, "What about me?" "What about my needs?" "I'm hurting in here!" This is the source of your dissatisfaction with life that, when unfulfilled, gets expressed as a desire for stuff to hide your feelings of inadequacy. And you don't want to hear it. You don't want to deal with what she is feeling and the implications behind it. Your focus on external things - clothes, friends, furnishings, your career, money - as ways to cover over her feelings of lack, of emptiness. After all, she feels as though she doesn't "deserve" to be loved.
POSTED ON: February 2, 2017, 6:40 am BY Ross Bishop

Having Blue Hair

But what if I were to say, "You are not worthy," or "You are inept or insensitive?" That's harder to walk away from, isn't it? Why? It's not that what I say matters. But the fact that I am judging you is important,
POSTED ON: December 27, 2016, 9:20 pm BY Ross Bishop

When Something Happens

OK, something happens – good or bad – it doesn’t matter. In that moment you have a choice – you either hold compassion for the other or dump all over them. Every situation, every moment, presents you with that choice.
POSTED ON: May 10, 2016, 1:00 pm BY Ross Bishop