Ross Bishop

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Compassion

When you connect with the wounded one inside, she will speak of feeling a lack of love, feeling inadequate, not accepted - that sort of thing. Her early experiences poisoned the waters in which a healthy self-image could have been created. She's inside saying, "What about me?" "What about my needs?" "I'm hurting in here!" This is the source of your dissatisfaction with life that, when unfulfilled, gets expressed as a desire for stuff to hide your feelings of inadequacy. And you don't want to hear it. You don't want to deal with what she is feeling and the implications behind it. Your focus on external things - clothes, friends, furnishings, your career, money - as ways to cover over her feelings of lack, of emptiness. After all, she feels as though she doesn't "deserve" to be loved.
POSTED ON: February 2, 2017, 6:40 am BY Ross Bishop

Having Blue Hair

But what if I were to say, "You are not worthy," or "You are inept or insensitive?" That's harder to walk away from, isn't it? Why? It's not that what I say matters. But the fact that I am judging you is important,
POSTED ON: December 27, 2016, 9:20 pm BY Ross Bishop

When Something Happens

OK, something happens – good or bad – it doesn’t matter. In that moment you have a choice – you either hold compassion for the other or dump all over them. Every situation, every moment, presents you with that choice.
POSTED ON: May 10, 2016, 1:00 pm BY Ross Bishop

Childhood

When presented with the opportunity to be compassionate, we often hold back. We go as far as we can, but we are often unable to love freely and openly. We become anxious and afraid. We fear that if we open our hearts we might be rejected. Why do we feel this way? Where does that come from?
POSTED ON: August 16, 2016, 4:00 pm BY Ross Bishop

Prejudice

Sometimes we just accept things without really looking at what’s behind them. Take prejudice for example. It is largely an oxymoron. You can’t dislike a whole race or group. It's not possible. You can dislike some of “them” for what they do - their morals, lifestyle, social values, etc. but not everyone in a group acts in the same way and to paint with such a wide brush is just plain wrong. Besides, how can you dislike someone for being who they are?
POSTED ON: April 12, 2016, 10:00 am BY Ross Bishop

The Mask

We all get caught in shame surrounding what happened to us at home. We end up feeling not good enough, unworthy, unlovable and a hundred other things. Now, we can’t be any of those things, but we can certainly believe that we are.
POSTED ON: June 15, 2016, 10:10 am BY Ross Bishop